A game designed to foster deeper connection between partners
The Connection Deck provides couples with a structured yet flexible way to deepen their connection, spark meaningful conversation, enhance understanding, and foster intimacy through open-ended questions and interactive prompts.
It's explicitly not about winning or finding "right" answers, but about the process of sharing and listening with your partner.
Three types of cards to guide your connection journey
Question Cards
Brain Level
The core engine for verbal sharing and getting to know each other deeper. These are open-ended questions with no right or wrong answers.
Action Cards
Spice Level
To inject direct interaction, physical connection, affirmation, and playfulness into your relationship.
Thunder Cards
Lightning Level
Optional cards to facilitate constructive dialogue about challenges or areas for growth.
Simple steps to deepen your connection
Find a comfortable, distraction-free setting where you can focus on each other. You might want to light some candles, play soft music, or make some tea to create a relaxing atmosphere.
Decide which decks to use (Core questions, Actions, and optionally Thunder Cards if you both agree). Shuffle the chosen decks.
Player 1 draws a card and follows the prompt:
Before proceeding with any card, you may both agree whether it feels right for this moment. Either partner can suggest skipping a card without explanation.
After a Question or Thunder Card, the listener provides an "Echo Response":
For Action cards, the positive reinforcement is inherent in the shared positive action.
Player 2 draws the next card, and roles reverse. Continue as long as you'd like!
Example: "What's your favorite way to spend a lazy Sunday together?"
Example: "Describe a time you felt particularly proud of our relationship."
Example: "What does unconditional love mean to you in the context of our relationship?"
Example: "Hold hands and silently look into each other's eyes for 30 seconds."
Example: "Whisper something you find attractive about your partner right now into their ear."
Example: "Give your partner a lingering kiss on their neck or shoulder."
Example: "Is there one small household task that sometimes feels unbalanced?"
Example: "Describe a time recently when you felt misunderstood during a conversation."
Example: "Share a time you felt emotionally distant from me."
Create a non-judgmental atmosphere. Anyone must feel free to skip any card at any time without penalty or judgment if they don't feel comfortable or ready.
Focus on understanding your partner's perspective and feelings, even if you disagree. Avoid immediate defensiveness and validate their experience.
Use Thunder Cards sparingly. Maintain an overall uplifting tone with plenty of positive Question and Action cards.
Don't force deep or challenging conversations if one or both partners are stressed, tired, or not emotionally prepared.
"Brought Us Closer"
— Jamie & Taylor, together 7 years
We've been together for years but The Connection Deck helped us discover new things about each other. The questions spark conversations we wouldn't have had otherwise.
"Perfect Date Night"
— Alex & Sam, together 2 years
We use this instead of watching TV on date nights. The action cards add fun physical connection, and the structure helps us communicate better.
"Helped Through Tough Times"
— Morgan & Casey, together 5 years
When we were going through a rough patch, the Thunder cards (used carefully) helped us communicate our needs without arguing. The Echo Response technique is game-changing.
Get your deck today and start your journey toward a more intimate, understanding relationship.